anxiety and mental health

Posted by xoshua in Feb 16, 2011, under Uncategorized

Anxiety and mental health is a serious issue among millions worldwide.

Walk into a room full of your closest friends, chances are one of you suffer from a mental health problem.

Many of you who read this may be suffering from a condition involving mental health or anxiety. I’m here to help guide you on the right path.

I have suffered from anxiety since I was roughly fourteen years of age and still battle anxiety from time to time. As you grow, you realize how to handle certain situations, but what about those uncommon situations?

Have you ever heard the saying, “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger?”

Your mind is a powerful tool. Even in those dark times, your mind can control those attacks you experience with some essential rules to follow.

1. Anxiety attacks will pass. It will end, there is hope.

2. You will not become crazy, your not losing your mind, your battling those uncomfortable feelings.

3. Breathe. Deep breathes can lower your heart rate and slow your symptoms to a hault.

4. Stop using weed or other street drugs. (Many use to cover up but if you miss a day, your in trouble… trust me, the withdrawal symptoms are far worse than any attack you can imagine. I suggest reading my next blog on addiction and help. If you quit, life will be better, you are NOT alone. Millions quit stret drugs daily.)

5. Advise family and close friends of your condition. Once they know, they can and should help you by taking action.

6. Stay away from effexor if possible, if it helps continue, but I would advise a different anti- depression.

7. Seek pro advice from a doctor. Do not feel ashamed or scared. Even super heros need heros.

For now this will be your homework. Work on breathing and talking. Try to write down a list of fears you have and have a friend or family member help you imagine what you would do in the situation with your given fears. You need to break the wall. Break through your fears.

Until next time, remember this will soon pass. Control your emotions and fears before they control you.

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Is cheek kissing wrong?

Posted by xoshua in Feb 16, 2011, under Uncategorized

I have been conducting a lot of tests recently about cheek kissing. It seems the verdict is… undecided.

Unfortunaly this will be an open debate for another few decades. However, this study was written by myself, so I make the call. My personal opinion… Depends.

As many of you know I am engaged with a spanish lady. The spanish culture enforces cheek kissing, plain and simple. Many of you ask, what about the north american cultures? This is where the debate comes forth. Most of us can relate when I say, we all have kissed a family member on the cheek. This being said, where do we draw a line? When is it alright to kiss another being without having to worry about jealousy or busting ones personal bubble? I have scanned the internet looking for an answer.

My advice is to judge the circumstance. If your anything like me, you need a solid answer. It is alright to kiss a family member. Possibly an aunt, an uncle, your mother, your sister, etc. However, I would not suggest to cheek kiss a stranger. Another point to consider is your better half. If your wife or husband is not fully comfortable with you cheek kissing an individual he or she has negative feelings towards, do not do it.

Rule of thumb, if you would not like your better half kissing the person you dislike, do you really think you should be able to? Absolutely not! If you do not have a problem with it, ask to be sure. It is disrespectful to some to kiss another being without the partner knowing first. Truthfully, I would only kiss my fiance and family. Even though her culture suggests cheek kissing to say hello, I prefer a nice solid hug.

My fiance did mention going back to her country to visit. She advised me that everyone cheek kisses to say hello. Even though I would be venturing into an unknown country, I believe a hug will do. The true question is, what will my fiance do in the situation. If confronted by someone I have negative feelings for steps up for her cheek kissing in front of me, he must know it will end shortly. This is disrespectful in the least. So here is the debate.

Cheek kissing, shall it stay an even debate or will an answer arise. I know most people say a kiss on the cheek is harmless, but is it?

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